有意义的一篇故事

刚刚念着朋友send 给我的 email, 很有意思，想在这里分享.

能解决的事，不必去担心；

不能解决的事，担心也没有用。

在顺境中感恩，在逆境中依旧心存喜乐。。。

累了，就把心事放下来

这是篇某人的故事：-

最近認識一位美國籍的出家師父，是個很有趣的事情。

特別是他叫我舉起蕃茄汁，跟他說話的經驗。

我們約在新竹的一家茶館，用英文談論著心經，

師父用英文跟我解釋因果、輪迴這些事情，這都還不稀奇。

有趣的事情在後頭呢！

師父一聽完我跟他提到～個人煩惱的時候，

他索性要我左手提起～他剛買的三罐番茄汁，

一邊提著，一邊跟他說話。

可想而知，我左手感覺到疲勞的程度，跟時間成了正比。

也懊惱著為何師父要我一邊提著三罐蕃茄汁，一邊跟他說話。

受不了這樣的酸楚，我自行把左手放下，

卻聽到師父跟我說：

「 Hold it up, and keep talking to me. 」

聽到這樣的話，心理不免起了疑心，
我手提的那麼酸，

為何不讓我放下手上的重物，輕鬆地與他對談？

約莫過了15分鐘，我的左手實在承受不住了，
才聽見師父跟我說：「Now you can put it down.」。

看著我狐疑的臉，師父居然笑了出來。

為何你卻喜歡帶著煩惱，過著你的生活呢？

手酸了，放下就好，對待煩惱，不也是這樣？

或是這些煩惱，就像是那些番茄汁一樣，

是你自己用手把它們給舉起來的呢？」

有趣的經驗，對吧？

最近我開始這樣的練習，

一手舉起有重量的東西，一邊想著事情。

手酸了，自然會放下手上的東西，

看看有一天，我會不會也學到，心累了，就把心事給放下來。

我們能很容易的放下有形的重物，

卻很難放下無形的重擔。

執著的人生～會讓自己承擔莫需有的重擔。

學習放下執著～也就在學習人生自在。

Just another rainy day~~

19 September 2009 (Saturday)

It's just another rainy day.. A friend of mine is watching All In, a Korean movie which I watched about 6-7 years ago.. Oh man... 6-7 years ago... It was during my high school time... Scenes of the series started to appear in my mind.. Although not very clear but I knew I used to like that series a lot.. Main character not very handsome, but cool.. I like cool guys... Wuahahahah...

Why I go for Korean movies? I also don't know the exact answer for it.. What I can remember is that, this set of series has been watched by most of my high-school mates.. The box of series was passing around the class until the box become 'ham choi'.. From that onward, my friend who own this series doesn't wanna lend other people her collections... Haha... Well.. Nvm.. At least we watched.. Used to dream that I was the gal inside.. (think so.. ) Coz most of the Korean movies I watched were very romantic. Below is a list of which Korean drama series I watched before:

1. Winter Sonata (I think most of you heard of this before =P )


2. Worlds Within / The World That They Live In
3. Celebrity's Sweetheart / Star's Lover
4. Stairway to Heaven
5.Autumn in My Heart

6.Lovers in Paris
7. A lot more... Cant remember all in one go.. But all are nice and romantic... Haha.. Will sure watch more...

Another rainy day.. Thunder striking.. Big rain drops on the roof.. Sounds like a melody which relaxes my soul.. Has been a long time since I listen to the rain fall.. Although is not a very nice one, but it still sounds great.. A day that can make people nap in a peaceful mind.. But I didn't go to sleep.. Instead, I wasted this wonderful day in FACEBOOK!!! Oh gosh... Suppose to be doing my reports or study for my Anatomy and Physio.. But.. Since it's a long weekend, it means relax... So.. Ended up updating my blog, which has been dead for few months...

A friend of mine has been talking to me about the one she likes.. Mind was in a mess.. Dunno what to do.. Friends around me seems to face different relationship situation.. Some just registered to become husband and wife... And hearing friends getting married and have their own kids.. Felt happy for them.. But some face difficulties in getting their love ones or their crushes... Which sounds... Ermhm.. Not very good.. Some are still stalking on their crushes.. Haha.. Which make us have things to busybody with.. Some even still on their way finding the suitable ones.. Which might take them months or years.. And some even joke that they'll snatch other people's gf.. OMG.. Life is like that.. Should I say life is wonderful with friends facing different things around me? Felt like I'm in the middle of nowhere.. Looking each scenes passed by me... Suddenly a lot of pictures of friends come to my mind.. Just cant express the situation I'm in now... Just very dramatic... Hm...

Recently just read a blog.. Somehow I can feel the feeling that person felt.. The little heart seem to be broken.. Fill with heartbreak and tears which no one can really understand, I supposed. Reading the passage over and over again.. Thought of things that I'd been through in the past.. Which really cannot forget for the rest of my life.. Regretted? Not really.. Just felt very stupid.. Feel like slapping myself sometimes.. Haih... Why did I do such stupid things which embarrassed myself more for no better reasons.. Friendships just disappear as a result.. Well.. At least today I know how to handle things a bit properly so that I wont ended up doing stupid funny things that make me regret or laugh at myself..

Looking back on photos I had in my external hard-disc... A lot of wonderful moments with friends.. What do exactly we need friends for? Just simply a friendship? Just let you readers take a moment to think about it...

Okie.. It's time for me to find Mr. Chow.. Bye~ To my love one and the people out there... Sweet dreams and good night...

Nice Sayings~

Never explain yourself to anyone.
Because the person who likes you doesn't need it,
and the person who dislikes you won't believe it.

When you keep saying you're busy,
then you are never free.
When you keep saying you have no time,
then you will never have time.
When you keep saying you will do it tomorrow,
then tomorrow will never come.

When we wake up in the morning, we have two simple choices.
Go back to sleep and dream, or wake up and chase those dreams.
Choice is yours.

We make them cry who care for us,
We cry for those who never care for us,
And we care for those who will never cry for us.
This is the truth of life, it's strange but true.
Once you realise this, its never too late to change.

Don't make promises when you are in joy,
Don't reply when you're sad,
Don't take decision when you're angry.
THINK TWICE... ACT WISE.

Time is like a river.
You cannot touch the same water twice,
because the flow that has passed will never pass again.
ENJOY EVERY MOMENT OF LIFE...

First I was dying to finish my high school and start college;
And then I was dying to finish college and start working;
Then I was dying to get marry and have children. And then I was dying for my children to grow old enough so that I could go back to work. But then I was dying to retire. And now I'm dying. And suddenly I realised I forgot to live.
Please don't let this happen to you. Appreciate your current situation and enjoy each day.

-An Old Friend-

A Gentle Reminder~~ (From email)

We all need a gentle reminder once in a while, hope this gives you the lift you need.

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, 'Public Utilities Board.' There was silence. She repeated, 'PUB.' There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, 'Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is.'

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just 'hello' instead of 'PUB'.

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NO POINTING FINGERS

A man asked his father-in-law, 'Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?'
The father-in-law answered in a smile, 'Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you.'

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.



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CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?

A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested 'I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one.' The SDU officer said, 'Your requirements, please.' 'Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest.' The officer listened carefully and replied, 'I understand you need television.'

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up a and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.



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NO OVERPOWERING

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that 'It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character..'

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..

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RIGHT SPEECH

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that 'A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation.' Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, 'Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school.' On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, 'Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker.' She answered,' You should appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire and not you.'

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.



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PERSONAL PERCEPTION

Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, 'Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey? 'Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, 'The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?' Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, 'How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman.'
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, 'Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you.' Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.

It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a near row bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..


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BE PATIENT

This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, 'Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck.' Then he asked, 'but when are my fingers going to grow back?' The father went home & committed suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

I'm back again~~

Finally get back to my blog again.... Facebook msg: Need some fresh air to breathe... I think now i should breath some fresh air since tmr no morning class... Had been busy since skul reopen... Din update myself not because I'm in my extremely busy condition but it's because of NO INTERNET CONNECTION!!! Ok.. Now I had it... Well.. These few weeks seems long for me... Tons of stupud things happened.... **sigh**

First, the day when me, xiang ting &ying and friend reach KL, got onto a taxi which cost us RM100+++... Damn expensive lo~~ And since we're staying in different places, we need de taxi driver to send us to 2 different places which is quite near and actually it suppose cannot be done... So end up scolded by the "no good" taxi driver whom we thought he might be friendly AT FIRST... Reached and fast fast unpack myself so that can go grab something from Jusco... A lot to buy... Luckily got my boy boy there to help me... Wakakaka... Ended up late for nap coz need to tidy up everything which messed up my room...

Well, everything was not as smooth as I thought... No internet is worse but no electric supply one day before my school reopen was the worst... Maybe because of the thunder and lightin... Spent one nite without electric current... Sampai go fren's hse to bath... Haih... Hope that it'll be better the next day... Who knows, the same thing happen again... So bad luck...

Fine... Electricity back to normal... Another thing happened... My "personal cloth" being stolen two days after...
Then the weekend I think should have no special thingy happened.. Then school reopen... Wonderful, I thought at first coz can meet wif all my frens again... Manatau... Tons of reports and assignments need to be done... It's just the 4th week of our semester... It was like yrs.... Tired ler.... Just finish our interview with lecture today for our stupid oral presentation... At least finish a small part of it...

Now it's the end of 5th week... Juz get to cont this draft coz the whole week bz like hell!!! Finally can grab another fresh air... A lot of things seems to going on this week... Mostly bad things... First of all is our presentation on tuesday... It's a long story... Basically is bout de lecturer treating us unfair and she rude!!! Summore she's my physio lecturer... Still gonna see her for the entire sem... So must choose to forgive her... Sounds so "wei da"!! Haha... The the next day (wed).. This didn't go well... Got our MIC spot quiz which we expected the demo wont give.. After the lab session was our physio quiz... Took the machine gun to shoot... Very confusing!!! How am I gonna do?? But luckily it's MCQ... Haha.. Then after class.. Went to the library to get the book i reserved... I broke the present my fren gave me a week ago with the phrase saying "May dreams come true" in chinese... But i broke... My dream i prayed for that week definetely wont come true anymore... So I was thinking izzit so ngam or it's a fact i'll lose my dream???? That nite had a bad quarrel wif bf.. Cried for 2 days... My eyes bengkak... So sad... Spoil my pretti-nest... Haha... SS...

So next... Juz concentrate on de essay I gonna pass up by Fri... Finally done.. And I thought i might get some relaxation... then a sms come... Monday audition for the church worship team... I juz told my mom bout sending my keyboard all the way from Sabah to KL... The keyboard hasn't arrive and the audition is coming... Huh... No chance to practice I think... And hopefully I can made it to one of the music skul to try for the songs for audition... Pray that everything will go smooth... There's always new hope tmr... Anyway, I juz had my 1st 2 lessons for bible study yesterday..

So far.. My life here can consider very busy... Wif assignments and stuff... Yet I'm glad to have frens to share my stuff with, it wither online or at skul... =P Thanks God for giving me frens... Haha.. Will update again whenever I'm free.. Hope u enjoy my blog which maybe bored u at some point...

Small gathering~`

Update myself now~~ XD

Had been a long time since I posted the last post.. Getting excited for my new semester... Waited for long long time... Holiday is almost finished... 4 months of holidays just finish like that? Hm.. Seemed I din do anything much during this holiday... Everyday busy with kids (as in students, not my own kids.. =P) Then some nights go for a date or find frens for drink... Juz passed my holiday like that... OMG... What a bored holiday... Huh...

Valentine's day had just passed too... Nth special on the valentine's day... Juz went for a lamb chop dinner which made us waited for an hr and finish up the food in 20mins... Not so romantic at all... Haih... Well... He's not those romantic ppl also... So... No wine, no candlelite dinner, no flowers, no background music... Juz had our dinner at a coffee shop which famous with their lamb chop with people all around and cars passing by... Not a romantic place to go anyway... Haha... Hope one day my Valentine's day will be a different one... Cant remember how we had our Valentine's Day for the pass 4 yrs... Next yr's Valentine's Day will drop on the first day of Chinese New Year... Lolz... So definetely no Valentine's Day for me... Coz we'll be back to our own hometown... Will be missing another Valentine's Day I suppose...

Juz got my blood for a test this morning... Suffered from hunger since last nite... *cry* Coz i normally had my supper... Fainted after giving out blood... Luckily I fainted after getting off from car and not while I was driving to the market... Thanks God for that... Remember not to stand up and do other stuff right after donating blood or took any blood sample... Got to wait for 15-30 mins... Got some hot water from the vegetable seller in the market and rest a while on ppl's chair... Lolz.... Then feel better after some Milo and Ngau Chap... That's y I was here to update my blog again... Haha... Will get my report soon... So, pray that everything will be good...

After the blood test, went out with a pair of married couple... She's the head in my KK church worship team which i used to join when I was in KK... Shared a lot... Happy to share with them... Talk bout the life in KL, KK and also S'pore... Different city different life style... Suddenly out of no where she ask me whether my bf and I had plan to get married soon coz we'd been dating for yrs... Well... We'd not think bout it yet coz both of us need to get our financial settle before having a family... XD So... Think it'll take like another 5 more yrs to go... Haha...

Trying to tidy up the documents in my laptop also... Documents were so messy that I dunno what I had in my laptop... Some of the photos document files were repeated... Made my laptop's memory full.... -.-" And those drama series... Wish I had an external hard disc for it... So that my laptop will not get full easily... Wakakaka.... But need $$ to buy it... Got anyone wanna sponsor it? Haha...

My birthday coming soon... Happy and sad... Happy because I'll become a more mature person... Sad because I'm old again... *Sigh* Time flies... Really fly very fast lar... LAst 2 weeks wanted to go for my former school's sports day's bazaar... But kena block outside the school gate... So sad... Haih... So we planned to change into our school uniform... When we thought of it... It had been yrs we left school... OMG... And the school uniform was saw with our student number... Which started with number 99... Meant we got into secondary 1 in the year 99... Walau... That was 10 yrs ago.... Shocked when we counted the yrs... That was so far ago man..................................

Ok... Need to stop here... Coz the kids are here dy... Will be updating my blog sooner... Wakakakaka...

大石和巴士

大石和巴士--你的回答是什么？

一对恋人乘坐一辆巴士进入山区，只有他们在途中下车。他们下车后，巴士继续往前驶。巴士继续行驶途中，一块大石从高出坠下并将巴士压得粉碎，所有乘客一无生还。那对恋人看到这件事说：“如果我们在那辆巴士就好了。”一般人都会想说：“还好我们下车了！”但他们却说了不同于一般人的话，您认为他们为什么会这样？

答案：

如果他们都留在车上没下车，那辆巴士将会因为他们没有下车而赶在大石坠下前驶过出事地点！！

在我们的生活中，多尝试以不同的角度来正面思考几多找机会去帮助他人，别在不知不觉中一昧自私的为自己活着了。

Ahyowei~~~~

Huh... Cant feel that CNY is around the corner... Went to KK just now... Very extremely quiet... As usual as weekdays... Haih... Not many people at all... Suppose most of them balik kampung dy... I'm going back too... Haha... Many angpau coming!! Yes! XD Or maybe they went to the night market which will open until 3am later~~

My Life~

Chinese New Year is Coming~~

Wohow~~~~~ CNY is coming... So happy oh... Will be going back to my hometown to get angpau... Haha... Then sure go shopping with those $$... So excited... Malacca and KL!! Wait for me to come...

Just got something new from a friend's blog... Haha... That's y there's a slide show going on in my blog... Fantastic... Just realize actually i used to have an account from tat website which i didn't use it for ages... Photos of mine since last year...Changed a lot... Haha... Hair style, hair color and the specs as well.. Really different... Quite happy with my new look... Brand new year brand new ME... Keke... What a quote is this =.=

CNY coming... Just few days ahead... Quite quiet this year... This afternoon heard ppl putting firecrackers.. But dunno from where... I think this will be the only firecracker "sound" i might hear this CNY... Haih... So sad... Although shopping complexes decorated their malls, lots of ppl visiting but less ppl buying things lar... Economic crisis... Haih... We graduated at the wrong timing too... Too late to graduate...

Just went to a small gathering... Two just-graduated friends were complaining.. They hardly find a job today... Sent resumes to lots of companies but no response from them... Will I be like that when i graduate next yr? Not sure... Hope that everything goes smooth for all of us lar... Pray that everyone of us might overcome this crisis... Haih... Gambateh neh my friends... And my family too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Last but not least... WISHING ALL OF YOU A BLESSED CHINESE NEW YEAR!! 新年蒙恩!! Take good care of ur health too~~

Another Day~~

Haih... Accidentally deleted everything... * sigh* Gonna restart everything again... *sigh*

These two days, kids just started their school... Wow... Being very busy with all the kids for 2 days.. Extremely tired.. But better than nothing to do.. Hehe... Got stuck in the traffic for long hrs... Driving the manual Hilux in the jam is not an easy job... With those new school bag behind the truck, really looked like I'm selling bags some more... Hm...

Being too bored at night, after watching Nodame Cantabile (a jap. drama series), felt regret for not playing my piano.. So, decided to force myself to finish a piece within this month (hopefully I can make it).. But, who knows, when I sat on the chair, reading up the new piece, my fingers were not cooperating... Too bad... Hm...... Gambateh~~~

Now wondering when the school really starts.. Said 2 March, but the time table out showed that lectures starts on 25 Feb... If it really starts on 25 Feb, then I need to change my air ticket, which most probably, need to add on money... Too bad... Haih...

全新的一年～～

全新的一年，你有你的计划了吗？重新开始？ 你有想过你能真的从新开始吗？其实很难... 但你可以因为你的过去而改变你的未来... 不开心的事，大家都想忘记，只想记得开心的事... 但往往有些时候，在某个时间，某个熟悉的地方， 遇见了你熟悉的人，不开心的事又会浮现，这时候的你应该如何呢？不懂如何是好的同时，心情就变得更沉重了... 想起了以前发生的事，有些事真的很不甘心，有些事会领到一个人很不开心，真是错中复杂的心情，有人能了解吗？我想，应该有吧！嗨... 如果有颗药叫“忘以前”，那该有多好啊！！！！！
新的一年，当然想把书念得更好啦！可能会去打份工，在高级酒吧弹弹琴（再发梦）... 突然很想继续我的钢琴生涯，好久没有动了，越来越生疏，越来越不舍得离开它... 怎么办？没钢琴... 嗨... 真的不懂要怎样... 现在还得烦租房间的事... 真的是一个头，很多个大！！！！